One common difficulty for family caregivers who have senior loved ones with dementia is that other family members are often unsure about visiting. The reality is that these visits can do a lot of good for your loved one and for your other family members. The key is to plan the visits well.
Set These Visits up for Success
While it might seem that there’s not much you can do to make these visits go well, you really can. Start out by making note of when your loved one is at her best. Block out those times on the calendar for potential times and days for visits from other family members. If you’re not able to be there, consider having experienced senior homecare providers available, just in case there are issues.
Line up Some Activities
When a situation is already awkward, it’s difficult to get past that. your other family members might be nervous and that’s something that easily translates to your loved one. figure out some activities that everyone can do together. This might be playing a favorite card game together, looking at photo albums to reminisce, or watching a movie together. If your family members don’t need the buffer of an activity, that’s great, but at least there’s something in place.
Make a Cheat Sheet for Visitors
Another way you can help other family members learn how to interact with your loved one is to make a list of some of the potential triggers your loved one has as well as tips for making the visit a good one. Giving the cheat sheet to your other family members in advance of the visit allows them to look over the information and let you know if they have questions.
Let Family Members Know How to Handle Recognition Problems
Depending on where your loved one is in the stages of dementia, she may have difficulty recognizing family members that she’s known for years and years. This is normal with dementia, but it’s incredibly painful to family members. Let them know that it’s not personal and that your loved one doesn’t realize what she’s doing. What’s important is that they’re spending time with her.
Hopefully once a few family members have some solid visits under their belts, it won’t feel so awkward for them. Don’t give up, either on your other family members or on your loved one.
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In 1995 he became Administrator of Dial-a-Nurse nursing agency, the oldest nursing agency in the Southwest Florida succeeding his mother who started the company 37 years ago. He is also President of Nevco, Inc., an educational healthcare training company begun in 1988.
Mr. Wolfendale has worked with the U.S. Department of Commerce on various Missions to improve the quality of life around the world by development of supportive healthcare programs. In 2005 he traveled with U.S. officials and addressed the Italian National Government assisting in the creation of Nurse Education mandates for that Country. In 2006 he was invited and spoke with the National Institutes of Continuing Education in Eastern Europe on healthcare education and developmental mandates, and most recently represented the United States at the European Union in Lake Balaton, Hungary in 2011. In 2014 he traveled with the U.S. Department of State to Singapore, Malaysia and Vietnam in an effort to improve caregiver knowledge and training.
Mr. Wolfendale has worked with a number of non-profits in contributing and creating curriculum to improve the quality of life in third-world countries since 2001, and notably created a successful program in Odessa, India that has been modeled in other areas of the world. In his backyard, he has worked with local Goodwill Industries to provide curriculum and training to underserved individuals who have obtained employment as a result of educational training. He was the Congressional appointment to the Governor's purple ribbon task force in 2013, and has worked to educate caregivers in all aspects of Alzheimer's training.